Monday, September 10, 2018

Do You Hide The Hobby?

Do you hide the hobby from others?

I do.

I had this thought the other day when I was having Physical Therapy. The therapist was doing their usual "small talk" and I couldn't find much to discuss since it didn't appear they were much of sport fanatic. So we just discussed our day.

But, even though he didn't appear to be much of a sports fanatic, why couldn't I just throw in the fact I was a sport card collector? That could have been a game changing conversation. Who knows..maybe he is a closet one. Maybe he has a few missing pieces for my collection. But what happens if that turns the conversation south, maybe he will also look at me like a dork or ridicule me from within himself.

Is that the true problem here? I am worried about others judging me for sport card collecting in my 30's when some may look at it as "childish?" They are pieces of cardboard with someones picture on it.

I really don't know how to answer whether that's why I hide it or not.

I do know this wasn't the only opportunity I have had to share my passion for the hobby but fell flat to do so. I ran into some classmates once at a friends wedding, did I once bring up the fact I was still card collecting or blogging doing about so? No. I once worked in a grocery store in the meat room where I ran into many people all day long that I had to start small talk with and did I once bring up sport card collecting? No. I met up with my wife's family at a BBQ for a nephew's graduation who some knew and some didn't know that I collected cards, but did I tell the others when I had many times to do so but instead discussed the weather? Absolutely no.

I am not sure why I hide the hobby. I do know I am probably not alone in this as I am sure there are others of you out there who don't take the opportunity to speak about this great hobby community we have. A hobby that despite your age makes you feel younger, brings you back nostalgia and gives you ever lasting memories.

If more of us, definitely including myself, actually spoke about the hobby and spoke more highly of it, maybe we would be surprised by the responses we may get. Who knows what a simple conversation may lead to. It takes a spark to light a fire.

33 comments:

  1. Good topic.

    I don't think I hide that I collect. I speak about it at work periodically and people there know I collect cards (it's a bit easier because I work in a sports setting).

    What I do hide is my blogging about cards. I do that because I think it'd cut down on my blogging freedom if people in my real life knew that I blogged.

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    1. I completely understand that. I wouldn’t want any one in my real life knowing this is what I do in my spare time.

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    2. Especially with the stories I tell about some of them

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  2. I fully agree Mr. Owl, this is a great topic.

    I don't socialize much in real life, but when I do, I tend not to be too forthcoming with personal information -- which is kind of dumb, because I tell people anything and everything on the blog, and some extent, Twitter. After some hesitation, I did tell a doctor once about my collecting ways, turned out pretty well, as I then found out that he had a large collection of old TV western memorabilia.

    As far as people thinking that card collecting is childish goes, who cares? I mean every time I go somewhere, I inevitably see people that are older than me doing, or saying, things that I would consider to be childish -- hell, I think it looks childish when people can't take their eyes off their phone when they're out and about, and literally everyone does that, so...

    P.S. How's your PT going?

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    1. I am sure I do a few other childish things people would frown at more like searching for toys from my childhood

      My kneee is slowly getting stronger, without that ACL it won’t ever be complete. However a nagging ankle injury is delaying getting released from PT. I have it bandages today. The ankle I injured a year ago but lived with it til now lol

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  3. When I bring it up in conversation, I almost always feel like I am apologizing for myself. It's like "I know this sounds childish but it's what I do...I'm sorry." But I have started being more open about it with my neighbor who I have become friends with over the last year. He recently decided to dig out his collection from his childhood and found two Jeter RCs and gave one to me! And when we had a neighborhood gathering at his house last week, all the men at one point or another gravitated to the cards and flipped through them for the nostalgia. I think there is something about baseball cards in particular that just draws us guys from time to time (some of us more than others!).

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    1. That’s why I wondered if we brought it up more of others would join in and not frown at us. But it’s hard to even begin the conversation

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  4. Most of my close friends and immediate family members know I collect cards, but only a handful know about my blog. In regards to keeping my collecting a secret, I've gotta admit there have been times I've had the opportunity to share my passion for card collecting and I chose to stay quiet.

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    1. So far I would say you’re in company with the rest of us on this

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  5. I 100% hide it. I'm pretty similar to you. I've even been by asked by doctors "Any hobbies?" in routine checkups or making small talk and I usually just say "sports". Blech.

    Like you, I'm not entirely sure why I do it. My wife obviously knows I collect because of the amount of packages that arrive, but she doesn't ask questions beyond that and I don't talk to her about it. "Hi Dear, I just got a 1997 Finest Tino refractor in the mail!!!!!"

    Once in awhile I might tell someone "Oh, I've got some vintage cards for my kids one day" but that's the extent of it. No one knows I blog either. Sometimes I feel bad because it's like I have another identity.

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    1. My wife knows I do and when I get excited about a certain post or card I got in a trade. But outside of that, naddah besides my father that collects.Not sure if that will ever change.

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  6. Yeah, I don’t make it too known either. I figure the odds of running into another collector randomly is pretty small so I usually avoid conversations about it. Mainly to keep other people from feeling awkward.

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    1. Totally agree. I don’t know a single collector nearby.

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  7. I'm not ashamed, but I figure it puts my Geek Meter into the red (if it isn't there already by then).
    Usually the response is, "I had a bunch of cards as a kid that got thrown out." And they're usually from the 90's. Dang kids....
    You feel reserved in your 30's, how will you be when you're in your 50's like me? :)

    Most of the few people I socialize with know I collect, and have seen me get cards in a few cases. But no one is anxious to come see my collection.

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    1. It’s funny that so many of us collect, but are spread out everywhere that none of us actually know of anyone around us that collects

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  8. I'm quiet/shy, so I don't typically talk about ANYTHING with most people in real life, but other than that, I don't shy away from talking about card collecting. I wear Topps shirts sometimes, and once in a blue moon it'll spark a comment like "oh, I remember collecting Topps cards as a kid". My co-workers know I'm a card nut because in my downtime at work, I'm always reading or writing card blogs.. but they are "dorks" too, only with video games, Pokemon, and/or D&D instead of sports cards. But yeah, I like letting people know I collect, as I dream of that "lottery winning" moment of when somebody's like, "oh hey, I have a bunch of my grandfather's cards in my attic I don't want.. Want 'em?" Lol.

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    1. Lol. Never thought about talking about it for that reason. But I really don’t see enough different people daily to attempt that. They know me too well already

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  9. I don't hide the fact that I collect or that I write about it. In fact, I actively try to get other people involved in the hobby. It hasn't worked, though, and I've pretty much given up.
    I rarely speak to anyone, and I don't really have friends in the traditional sense. I only have a couple of people who ever just send me a message just to chat, and all of them are from my scale model hobby. Most messages I get are from people trying to sell me something.
    Other than that I have a few people who will comment on my Facebook posts and everyone else just ignores me.

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    1. You’re not alone Billy. I have what’s called Facebook friends. People ones once close to but no longer. It’s usually a text or comment here and there. I was surprised to had been the best man in one of their weddings even though I haven’t seen him in 3 years.

      You have plenty of friends on here. That’s how I look at it as well

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  10. Like most, I don't talk about it. I feel like I am judged for being "childish" when I grab a pack or blaster and take it to the checkout counter. And because I hide it, I definitely don't tell my friends about my blog - my parents know (and my dad reads it) and maybe one or two other friends see the links I share in Facebook groups, but I keep that private for about the same reason. I shouldn't, I suppose; it's part of who I am. But I definitely do.

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    1. Don’t be ashamed about that . It seems from reading these responses we all are guilty of it

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  11. This post is on-point, man! I totally do this. I love collecting, but I’ve been doing it for years and if someone is not aware that it’s a thing real adults still do, it’s really hard to fill them in on the whole experience. I’ve got a buddy at work who collects LEGO sets, and another who has a huge fish tank that is basically a “fish collection.” They totally get it. My wife even takes a passing interest, haha. Collecting is definitely not the first thing I bring up in conversation with someone new, but i have found that lots of people have “dorky” hobbies they are really enthusiastic about.

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    1. Those people are probably the ones to talk to. No judgement there lol

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  12. Like so many others, I think this is a great topic! I think you've inspired my next post. Rather than ramble on in comment form here, I'll respond on my blog and ramble there instead. Thanks for posing such a thought provoking question.

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    1. You got it! I am happy so many have taken time to respond. I will have other topics going forward as well.

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  13. I don't but I'm a fairly talkative open person. I can talk to anyone in person. I have been given lots of free cards just by chatting with people and presents etc. It's always fun for me to talk about and people always ask me questions about what they have so I always enjoy that.

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    1. Awesome! I am jealous you are so open about it. Wished I could get myself to be

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  14. I've become more open to talking about it in recent years. As I've gone through counseling and worked on my own issues, I care a lot less about what other people think of me and my hobbies. And often, if you show an interest in their weird hobby, they will at least listen for a minute about yours. Most people have something unique that they are into and have a lot of knowledge about, so you can learn a lot by opening the dialogue. I did recently show a coworker my autographed Deadlift Lolita CD, and maybe that was a little over the line. It's a pretty big leap to go from talking about college football to cross-dressing bodybuilders who perform in a kawaiicore band.

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    1. This is true. I have talked to some about their hobby but for me I couldn’t respond with mine. Even though theirs was much further wacky

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  15. At my old job, people knew I collected and my family does of course, but I don't bring it up for some of the same reasons. I'm anti-social to a sometimes debilitating degree, and I just don't want the conversations that are 95% likely to happen where they don't know what to say or ask questions about what their junk wax collection is worth or can I look at their stuff and help them sell it, etc. That seems like more work than actual work to me.

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    1. Oh man. That would be awful. I get that on my Facebook page. Can I tell me how much this sheet of 1991 Fleer baseball is? I used to respond to each one, now it’s just a generic message

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  16. I don't openly talk about the hobby either. I can't imagine people would be very interested in conversing about something they have little interest in and no little about.
    On the flip side, my wife has mentioned me and my hobby at some of her social affairs. As a result, she's brought home the collections of her friends' relatives on two separate occasions. Maybe we should all be more open about our hobby with others! LOL

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    1. Lol. But I think you hit the nail on the head. We always question whether others will have any interest in what we are excited about. I doubt anyone I speak to would. They would probably nod their head while judging lol

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